I grew up about 30 miles north of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. I lived there most of my life until I was 44 years old. All of my family was local, and everyone was within 10 minutes. It was great. I then moved to New Jersey down by the shore. It was still home because I was only about 1 1/2 hours away from the family and the area was quite familiar since we had always had summer vacations at the shore. In August of 2021, my boyfriend and I moved to Georgia. There is a stark contrast of the way of life down here from where I came from.
If you have ever driven on Interstate 95, you know that it can be like driving in the Daytona 500. That goes for the Garden State Parkway in New Jersey as well. It’s not about the roadway really. It’s more about the attitude of the drivers. They give these major roadways a very specific personality. In Pennsylvania, I lived right outside of Philly, and in New Jersey, I lived between Philly and New York. There’s a certain edge to a majority of folks who drive back and forth between these cities. The speed limit may say 65 but that’s not exactly what it means. According to the law of the land up there, 65 is the minimum speed that is acceptable to those weary travelers who commute back and forth each and every day. The right lane is for slow pokes like the elderly or new teen drivers doing 65, and the middle lane is for the average driver like Mom and the kids heading to visit grandma. The far left lane is for the people who like to live on the edge. 75, 80 mph or higher seems to be the norm in that lane. Drivers may start out in the right lane and decide they want to get a little frisky so they move in and out between the right lane and the middle lane. But, once they experience that little bit of freedom they throw all caution to the wind and hop on over to the dark side. The LEFT lane. New York drivers were notorious for driving in the left lane and only doing 65. That situation leads to the road rage aspect of manipulating yourself in and out of all 3 lanes. Complete chaos. In contrast, here in Georgia, Most folks drive the speed limit. There is still the major Interstate 75 with the same 3 lanes. But it’s a very different experience down here. Sometimes you have the crazies speeding in and out of lanes, probably because they are out of staters from New Jersey. One of the most fascinating things to me on the roadway is that when it rains, just a little spritz, all you see is brake lights. Yes, on the interstate! A little rain shower and panic sets in immediately. I was driving from Macon to my home in Byron which is only about 20 minutes. It started to rain a little and it was like a Christmas tree being lit up. Red light, red light, red light. Everybody wants to basically stop, and give up. Out of nowhere traffic comes to a halt. In New Jersey, the vehicles don’t slow down for anything. There’s a Jersey attitude that says, “Ain’t nothing gonna slow me down”. Snow, rain, sleet, or hail will not keep a Jersey man down.
Speaking about the driving situation here in Georgia, there’s a concept that is so foreign to me. Up North when you come to a stop light with a left turn signal, if you aren’t able to make it through all the way, you sit in the middle of the intersection waiting for the lane to clear. Down here there is none of that. It’s bizarre. It is so ingrained in me to inch out and slowly get through. They absolutely do not believe in that down here. Nobody does it. So since I’m here, I must adhere to this new way of navigating. To top that off, there is no urgency at all to get to your destination. You could sit at a stop sign for 10 minutes waiting for the car in front of you to decide to make their turn. The speed of life down here has two modes, slow and backward. I have enough patience most of the time but my boyfriend is a tried and true Jersey driver and patience is not in his DNA.
Besides the driving aspect of the differences down here, there are some other things to note. For instance bread. I cannot even describe the longing I have for a decent Italian bread. You can’t get good bread here but you can get biscuits. Biscuits and cornbread are a staple at most meals in the South. It’s not just the bread it’s other food too. My boyfriend stopped in a Waffle House and asked for home fries and they honestly did not know what he was talking about. Here you can get hash browns but they aren’t really hash browns like we know them. They are shredded potatoes. Not even close to what we are used to. While at the Waffle house, he asked for a hard roll. The lady looked at him sideways and said, “Why in the world would you want a HARD roll?” Now let’s move on to the pizza. Oh, the ache in my soul. There is no pizza like the pizza up North. Let’s face it, the northeast has a love affair with food. Up there, they know how to do food. We have searched for good pizza. Most of the pizza here is franchise stuff. Some pizza shops just can’t get it right. But surprisingly in our quest we were able to find a hidden gem. It’s called Two Guys and a Pie. Guess what? They are from New York. YES!!! They know how to get it done. It is amazing and the crust Is perfect every time. We have to travel 30 minutes for this glorious concoction and it is worth every single minute
Now let’s move on to the fast food situation. We have all the major players, McDonald’s, Burger King, Wendy’s,, Chick fila and Popeye’s. We also have Zaxby’s. I never heard of them before but it’s nice to have a little variety. The major difference here is the drive-thru window. We order food same as the rest of the world but at our local Burger King they ask for your name. I say, “Mary”. The person takes my order and says, “Ok, Miss Mary, you can come on down.” When I get my food the person calls my name, Miss Mary and hands it over with a huge smile and tells me to have a Blessed Day. C’mon now, not ever in my life up north.
The general population down here is so extremely friendly. I have to laugh because boyfriend never liked to talk to people in the grocery store or anywhere for that matter. Now, he chats. Haha! Yes, he chats. Whenever you drive through the neighborhood if you see a passing car, you will see them wave at you. Everybody waves to each other as you go through the neighborhood. Yes, boyfriend now waves to everyone. Talk about culture shock. We now live in the Bible Belt and with that being said, religion and church are a way of life here. They still dress up for church on Sundays. The churches have all kinds of events and are always reaching out to people. It’s kind of a dreamy state of being because it reminds me of back in the day when community was important.
Festivals. There is a festival for everything. Cherry Blossom Festival, Dogwood Festival, Strawberry Festival, International Festival, State Banana Pudding Festival, and there’s the Rodeo. Then there’s the annual event of all events. It lasts for 2 solid weeks. If you come to Middle Georgia everyone talks about the fair. It is a fair on steroids. Because it is country down here, there are all sorts of farm animals and shows. Of course, there are rides and tons of food. I would describe the fair as being in comparison with the Wildwood Boardwalk in New Jersey. It is the event of the year. The schools take their fall break at the same time so families can go to the fair. Everyone goes to the fair. Lots of country living down here and I do love it. It feels like everything in life is a celebration.
There are some other differences that I’ve noticed. We are in the South so most people own guns and hunt and fish. The hunting isn’t just for deer. It includes wild hogs, gators, and snakes. Of course, the language is different. The Southern accent is pretty cool to listen to. Sometimes, though, certain people have a really heavy accent and with everyone wearing masks when we first came down, I couldn’t understand them. I think I’m more used to it now. They say things like, “Bless your Heart” and “Yall”.
When we moved down here it was difficult to acclimate. I found that I had so much fear of this whole new environment. I didn’t think I could ever comfortably drive around and know where I was going. The fear was stifling. I guess that because I was older and more set in my ways, the change became intense for me. I am happy to report that I have overcome that fear and I feel much more settled and very happy in this slowed-down environment where neighbors have chickens and goats and cows. I like traveling on the side roads where there are fields of cotton. I like the level of respect given to elders. Young children always refer to me as Miss Mary and it is very endearing. Yes, it is a different way of life. The climate is warmer in both weather and human interactions. After almost 2 1/2 years living in Georgia, I finally feel like I’m home.