I have been in a family struggle that is very disturbing. Feelings have been hurt and misunderstandings have exploded on many levels. I feel that I should know better than to engage in the drama surrounding me. But, I did engage in it and I have hurt my sibling. We siblings have been in the same situation before and I thought we grew enough to never allow things to come between us again. After losing our sister it felt like we came to a new appreciation for each other.
Do you have thoughts on the subject? Have you had conflicts within your family? How have you been able to solve these situations? Or, do you continue to not talk to your family member because they were wrong and you were right? Please share your thoughts and ideas with me.
One thing I have learned on my journey is that being right is not always the best result to strive fore. I always try to strive for peace. But the conundrum that I face is that I don’t think this dissention is really a situation of right or wrong. I guess the issue is that at times we make judgments of the actions of others without knowing all the facts and viewpoints of the other parties involved.
Do you ever get aggravated with a family member because you don’tlike the way they respond to situations? Would you feel comfortable enough to ask that person why they are so aggravated with you?
It’s difficult to deal with the awful feeling deep in my gut when the family is not getting along. I absolutely hate it. It makes me sick to my stomach. All I want is peace. I love all my siblings and I don’t want anyone to feel hurt or sad.
Please answer me this question: How do you deal with a situation when the hurt family member will not speak to you and you want to make it right?
I wanted to have this issue resolved right away but my sibling was not ready to have the discussion yet. I wanted to just air it out and let the healing begin.
Would you rather air it out or just hold it in and allow time to swallow up your relationship?
I guess I will have to lean upon the lessons that I’ve gotten through my journey of life. I know I have the tools to work this out. I believe I just need to focus and allow things to settle down on their own for now.
My dear reader, I know I have asked you a lot of questions and I am hoping that you are able to come up with some answers to this very important issue. I think that we all have the same kinds of conflicts in our lives and it is always a great way to learn when we can look deep into ourselves and find the real truth even if is unflattering to our own selves. Conflict resolution is a great skill to have but when it involves loved ones the emotions can cloud our vision and steal our peace away. I have found that if we decide to talk to other family members about the situation it only makes things worse. The situation then becomes a division of us vs. them. One small situation can snowball pretty fast into an unstoppable and unfixable problem. It can sever our family to the core if we allow it.
For myself, I will have to be still, meditate and pray for the grace to be patient and open to healing this situation.
I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for listening and helping me work through this glitch in my journey. I appreciate your honesty when it comes to all the questions I have asked.